My lovely sis-in-law really surprised me today — very pleasantly surprised, I must say — when she called me to read/edit something that she wrote. Not only is it well-written but it addresses some extremely important issues, especially pertaining to violence against women in Pakistan; in the form of acid attacks. Anyway, I couldn’t resist sharing it on my blog. So, please read it carefully, and reflect.
Pakistan is considered to be the world’s third most dangerous country for women, and Afghanistan is on top of the list.
I can’t even say that it surprises me because in Pakistani society women are treated with so much disrespect that it goes beyond any human cruelty.
The abuse against women is not only in the form of physical abuse but emotional as well. Most of the time we write about how women are treated in Afghanistan, but now I would like for us to shift our focus and look at the mistreatment of women in Pakistan, as well.
The abuse that these women are suffering from come in different forms but it is something that we have to address, especially the physical and emotional abuse that some Pakistani women face after marriage; this could be in the form of abuse from their husbands, in-laws, or both.
While we all teared up and rejoiced at Sharmeen’s achievement as a Pakistani winning the Oscar, yet none of us took any initiative to discuss the issue of Acid attack in Pakistan, prior to the Oscar win.
Our prime minister is ready to present the Civil Award, but has he ever visited these abused women who have suffered at the hands of their abusive in-laws and husbands?
Has anyone taken any step, as a fellow citizen, or just as a human being, to help these victims and bring the culprits to justice or highlight such dark issues of Pakistani society?
A short clip from Sharmeen’s film talks about 25-year-old Rukhsana, whose husband threw acid on both her and her sister-in-law. He then doused her in gasoline before her mother-in-law lit a match and set her on fire.
Is human life worth nothing in a country that is considered to be a Muslim state?
I wonder if these are the teachings of the Quran that Pakistanis are following.
Pakistanis are the first to condemn the West for portraying a bad image of Islam, and then I wonder what these violent attacks on women in Pakistan portray Pakistanis as?
My question here is: The one, who doused an innocent woman with gasoline, was she not a woman herself? Did she ever stop to think what she is doing today can happen to her as well, tomorrow? What if her daughter ends up with the same fate?
I religiously call my mother every morning before I head out to work to make sure she is okay, we share a very special bond and mostly talk about different issues. One day when I called her for our regular mother-daughter chat, she was very upset; and upon my asking, she told me a similar story about a husband who had thrown acid on a girl after he brought her back from her parents’ house.
It makes you think; is it a mistake to be born in Pakistan as a woman? Is Pakistan still not out of the dark ages of gender superiority? When will all this end?
Just because you are married off (a norm of our society), it does not mean that you become a property of your in-laws and your husband, nor do they have the right to mistreat and abuse you. Do they think that women have no heart to feel pain? Is her life worth only what she brings in a dowry?
There are so many unanswered questions, and who knows when they will be answered, or whether they’ll ever be answered.